How to make miracles happen
So many times we become angry at the person or the world because of the bad that has happened to us. 'Why did it happen to me?' 'What did I do to deserve this?' 'I am going to make sure, they feel what I felt.'
We secretly hold grudges. We unconsciously hate the world for doing this to us. The world didn't do it to us. We made that choice. We happen to be in that situation. We choose to be in that situation, knowingly or unknowingly. Our higher self needed us to be there for us to evolve. Yes that's correct. I understand sometimes it is out of our control how others react or what happens to us in a situation. It is how we react to it - becomes a part of us. We scream in pain in a situation, that reaction becomes part of us, we stay quiet and observe from the outside, that guilt becomes part of us, we argue and fight in that situation, that argument and anger becomes part of us.
We shouldn't allow what happens to us that we start hating the world. Many choose to become angry at ourselves or become angry at the world. So many times, I see people get ticked off and their whole day gets ruined because they let one negative reaction from someone affect their entire day. The whole day is full of 24 hours - imagine giving that much time to someone because of 1 negative thing they said. It is how you reacted to that negative thing that ruined your 24 hours. Not the negative thing itself. Here is a really good video by Prince_ea called the Most Contagious Disease showing the chain reaction.
Be a diffuser. Diffuse negativity into love. All the pain, suffering, bullying, hate, darkness..diffuse it into love. Brush it off or let it go. Accept it or move on! But don't let it define you. Don't let it take over your day, your entire life! Stop holding grudges! Someone else's anger.. let it be someone else's anger. Not yours. It is your choice not to let that be in your energy field for any part of your day or any part of your life. Your day is yours - why is it that you are letting others take over it and occupy rent? Sometimes even a mortgage in your head?
I want to share this experience because so many people have spoken to me about similar thing - their abuse. I had an angry ex who was abusive. Could I control that he doesn't hit me? No. I tried everything - being quiet, being calm, talking to him politely, talking to him angrily, responding back to him, not responding to him at all, taking him to a psychiatrist, and even marriage counselling, nothing worked. Nothing at all! Not even his parents telling him how wrong this is, nor my parents. Angry person is an angry person. He is angry at the world, angry at what the world did to him, he is angry at me for it, he is angry. Full stop. It is how he choose to react to what happened to him. Yes it is his responsibility. His choice is his responsibility.
He choose anger and he took it out on the person closest to him in his physical space, in his house and it happens to be me. I could see this as 'I am victim' scenario and feel bad about myself - why did it happen to me? I meditate, I work hard, I give to the poor and homeless, I do good to all, I am a good citizen, I am nice and kind to people - Why God? why me? What did I ever do wrong? haha NO! It is how he chose to react. Not me. His anger is his choice. Not my fault, it is his fault. My choice in this situation was that I choose to see a miracle. (not myself as a victim) This did not happen to me. It happened for me. For me to learn from this and evolve. For me, as I desperately needed to learn to stand up for myself. For me, as I needed to speak up and voice my heart. I needed to empower myself. I needed to look after myself and I wasn't doing any of that! I saw hope. I saw - this is not the end of the world. Later on I learnt, I can still have someone love me and that someone can be me.
I learnt to say no to abuse and to NOT keep running back to the abuser for the feeling of love that he is the only provider of love to me. I choose not to react to his anger. I choose to act from within and stand up for what my heart said - This isn't how you want to live for the rest of my life. This isn't the man I want my son to grow up to be like. That is the moment, I realised, not to react, stay calm and act. Become the human, I want my child to grow up to become.
The sooner you understand this, the sooner you learn to stop blaming others for what happens to you. Stop blaming the world. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility and don't dwell in your miseries. Learn to accept what you do is your choice and if you happen to be in an "unfortunate" situation that doesn't make sense to you and you ask yourself - how did I ever end up in this situation? Then, remember and only remember this. It is for you. This is happening for you to evolve. It is for your growth.
It is what it is. Apologize to yourself, apologize to others, apologize to the world for your reactions and be grateful for that switch in perspective, when it happens. Make that change into love.
Miracles only happen from a place of love and hope. Trust and faith that universe provides you with abundance of opportunities to learn.
My heartfelt apologies if someone has gone through a traumatic situation and finds this article absurd. You haven't seen the light yet. Trust in your heart that you will and then you will. I am going to leave you with this.
Before the world ends, immerse yourself in love. Image taken in Prague at the John Lennon Wall.